Tuning Up

I close my eyes and listen to the songs to tune myself to the ceremony ahead;

I listen to the songs to tune a deeper chord inside myself;

A deeper chord inside myself, thus offers itself, like sword and shield;

Like Frodo and Sting, the deeper chord glows as anxiety reveals

Itself, with Its monstrous depression and fear, taking control of

Stress, once-faithful companion, sabotaging the cortisol dear

Productivity reared; offering itself, this chord leans in to say,

“I’ve got your back. I’m right here.”


12 Relaxing Pre-ceremonial Songs

Today’s Goal

I’m totally ready for writing about 15 dance songs tomorrow… But I still have a lot of research to do with the 12 pre-ceremonial songs I listed in my weekly blogging goals.

Headspace ✅ Garden Next Time

The next time I wake up feeling sapped of hope, I need to spend more time with the plants. I spent two hours with the plants today, and I feel much better than I did two days ago. I think there may be equal parts exercise and earthly connection located in our backyard; I just need to do it.

12 Calming Pianos & Violins

Yesterday, I think I proved how much I love covers.

I also love piano and violin (and orchestral harp and flute!—but those aren’t as widely embraced as piano and violin); so I went on a hunt for piano and violin covers that people may recognize, in hopes I’m not ostracizing guests who don’t listen to classical.

But classical piano would work just as well—particularly Tchaikovsky (I know he’s not normally considered a “calming” choice, and that’s fine, because I love him)—if the DJ thinks the piano covers below are difficult choices.


Some of these have a lot of energy. Lots of them are from video games and Disney. That’s part of their charm.

I also made a YouTube playlist with these 12 tracks, to help find them… Or to play them directly to the sound system, if the DJ isn’t affronted by YouTube’s sound quality.

I need to ask Jen-Mom if the YouTube playlist format is helpful—because I can do this with the music from my previous posts, too.

Wedding Dresses & Rings Pinterest

In the earlier phases of wedding planning, I made a Pinterest board for dress and ring ideas; so if you’re planning a wedding, or you’re just curious and/or you’d like some inspiration, feel free to browse:

Wedding Dinner Music

Today’s Goal

Dinner music. Nine songs. DJ, Jen-mom, and/or Chase can add more songs to the list; some of the overflow songs from the previous posts could supplement.

Headspace ✅ Motivation

Started today watching these two videos.

Yesterday was emotionally rough. Trying to myself up to break that. Not going to let my brain pull me down like that. I accept when I fall down. I love the self who falls down; the self who gets scared. Then I get up.

You can truly trace every single problem or complaint in your life to silence and hesitation. Those are decisions…I am one decision away from a totally different marriage, a totally different life, a totally different job, a totally different income, a totally different relationship with my kids…

One million words. I’m writing a million words. I might not make it by the end of the year; but that’s the first goalpost. Not going to be silent. Not going to hesitate.

Your life comes down to your decisions, and if you change your decisions, you’ll change everything… Every one of us is one Google search away from instructions that, if you follow any of them, it will change your life.

9 Potential Dinner Songs

None of these songs are grabbing my shirt, shaking me, and screaming, You must play this song!—so this is just gathering a vibe. But I like these songs. I think these would make good dining songs. And I believe intelligently designed and performed covers of famous music makes good dinner conversation—thus the 7-out-of-9 covers.

Alternate, Geekier Idea

Zelda music for dinner. 😏 Since Chase is a huge Zelda fan, and I’m a bigger video game fan all-around. 😄 Except, I’m thinking only Cami, Mikey, Rae, Ashley, and Dad would be filled with joy by orchestral Zelda music—and I want lots of people feeling happy.

Wedding Decor & Crafts Pinterest

If you didn’t get enough wedding ideas from today’s post, no worries!—I have a Pinterest account with 12K+ images pinned, including this 108-idea board of wedding decor & crafts:

First Three Dances

Weekly Writing Goals

This one-week project was supposed to start publishing yesterday, but my research phase took longer than I expected. Oops. Thought I’d share the hiccup, just to illustrate I’m not  reaching every goal I set every day of my life, like some Internet-polished superwoman.

I’m not a superwoman—just a woman who’s hellbent on writing 1 million words.

So today, I’m exploring song choices for three dances: our dance; the mother-son dance; and the father-daughter dance. Later today, (to recuperate for the post I missed yesterday,) I’ll go on a late-night exploration of music for our ceremony; then tomorrow, I’ll look into music for dinner.

On Thursday, I’ll search for music for light, pre-ceremony music; and lastly, on Friday, I’ll add a longer dance song list, to give the DJ a feel of our vibe.

There’s a method to the madness of exploring songs in this order. I’m actually choosing 3 songs for each list every day, so it’ll get released on my blog as follows:

  1. Monday: 3 Beginning Dance Songs
  2. Tuesday: 3 + 3 = 6 Ceremonial Songs
  3. Wednesday: 3 + 3 + 3 = 9 Dinner Songs
  4. Thursday: 3 + 3 + 3 + 3 = 12 Relaxing Pre-ceremonial Songs
  5. Friday: 3 + 3 + 3 + 3 + 3 = 15 Dance Floor Songs

Today’s Headspace ✅ Candles

Tomorrow, I’m also starting the first batch of candles. While I was originally thinking of a mood stabilizing aromatherapy blend at our wedding, I’m reconsidering instead an island blend—just because, less than two days after our ceremony, we’ll be on a plane, over the Pacific Ocean, on our way to this Paradise on Earth called Hawaii.

So I’m going to make candles with island-scented oils; and the practice candles, I’ll burn through the house, while the pretty candles, I’ll keep for the wedding. The bad-ass candles will become bridesmaids and groomsmen gifts, along with handmade books Chase is designing. Or maybe not. I just know tomorrow is candle day. That first step, I’m certain will come true.

I’ll share my candle-making journey on my gardening and DIY blog, My Quest for Chicken, so check out that other branch of my blogosphere if you’re interested in my aromatherapy slash island slash crafts slash wedding experiment.

Our Dance

While we chose a cappella group Pentatonix a couple weeks ago, but we had songs on the table until just today:

We choose “Perfect.” So the second song will become an option on the 15-song list I’m preparing for the DJ, to share the vibe Chase and I made when we smooshed our music preferences together.

Mother-Son Dance

Jen-mom picked this, and Chase said yes; yay for decisiveness!

Father-Daughter Dance

I need my dad to listen to these and pick one. I can’t decide. I can narrow down songs, but I’m the master of indecisiveness once it gets to 2-4 choices (until impatience kicks in—then I throw a dart).

All of these are fantastic!

Wedding Music

Wedding music has been a shrapnel blast search; I like too many genres of music!—like I legitimately enjoy 70s, 80s, 90s, aughts, and 10s pop, alternative, rock, world, a cappella, orchestral, and electric music; and if I said, “I don’t like country,” that’d be a lie, because I’m a sucker for select country songs; and I’m also a sucker for select 60s, grunge, J-pop, K-pop, R&B, hip-hop, rap, dubstep—present me a genre, and I will find things I both like and dislike. My heart doesn’t close off (or completely open) to any one flavor of music.

Some songs have excellent lyrics, but not the best beats; and some songs have excellent beats, yet disturbing and/or bland lyrics; and repetition works here, but doesn’t work there; this song needs a little more instrumentals, a little less—I’m thinking it’s exploring the personality of each song that makes them all a little joyful.

Then, once in a rare while, a song is extraordinary joyful.

Here’s my Pinterest board for other wedding music ideas I’ve been looking at… I’ll visit more of these in detail this week.